Let the chauffer drive you around.

Something I'm really grateful for is the realization that the process is more important than the goal iteslf, and I'm thankful for being able to let go of goals and just trust the process.

We set goals all the time- 10 kgs by next weeek, improve from C to B next semester, 100$ more in savings each month from next year, and so on. We achieve some of these goals, some are just let go, some are procrastinated, some are changed by situations.

I used to go hard on myself whenever I used to skip a goal, or not meet it in time- no matter how small- be it spending time with someone, writing a blog post, editing photos from the shoot within a week, whatever. But that changed, thanks to being able to spend more and more time with myself, as a result of which I realized, a goal-oriented life is not just highly demanding, but rather unnecessary.

Let me try to explain it using a trilogy example. I think in life, there are three things- destination, journey, and the company. The destination, is common for everyone- death. I think we can all agree that there's no other destination to one's life. Given that it may be prolonged but ultimately inevitable, what's the point in wasting time focussing on that?

Then comes the company. We meet a lot of people in life, and form associations with many- relationships, friendships, acquaintances, the lot. Association and attachment are beautiful things in the sense that it presents the opportunity to enjoy the company of someone, help them become their best self, or have them help you out of a trauma, etc. But the thing with people is that they change. Everyone does. Whether we like it or not. So if you get attached to someone, what comes with the possibility of enjoying their company is also the chances of losing them and suffering that loss.

Now if you thought that people were mysterious, then it's time you met the third musketeer- the process. The journey. The act of 'being'. The process of life is so mysterious that despite having millenia of human experience with it, the only thing we know about it is that we don't know a damn thing about it. I mean, who knows what tomorrow might bring? To hell with tomorrow, we don't even know what today might bring. So isn't that some mystery?

Now what to do in life with these three musketeers? I don't know. In fact I think nobody knows if they really know what to do. After all, we're just a mode of dust suspended in a sunbeam. Tomorrow if our pale blue dot is gone, poof. And that's that. The universe will go on. With, or without us. Life isn't about us- we're not the center of the universe. We're just a consequence of cosmic and evolutionary events. Lucky we, we got a nice planet in the Goldilocks zone.

So with none of what we do amounting to any amount of significant impact, do we really have to do anything? That's an excellent question. And the answer is simple and plain- we don't.

There's nothing that we 'need to do'- neither science, nor religion and spirituality provide us with any answer supported by some evidence. But, there's a lot that we 'can do'. Can do to improve our lives while we're here, to enjoy the process of life to the fullest, to experience life itself, in a better way. Right here, right now is all we can think about, deal with and experience in the most true possible way.

I just hope that everyone would learn to trust the process more, let life take the driver's seat for once. I mean, you're being sent here with a chauffer to take you around life but you choose to drive yourself- just sit back and enjoy the ride.